A bit much to take.
Heavy and true.
Our entire community and surrounding district has been affected by several tragedies over the past couple of weeks, so this is too much for some, and relative to many.
Im talking about grief on top of grief…
and that’s on top of what ever else you might’ve already had going on in your day, to day life.
Oh, not to mention a global pandemic over the past couple of years…a couple of bush fires thrown in to the mix and unless we are living under a rock, there’s no denying it.
Depending on your involvement in community, who you know and your own personal situation, I think it’s fair to say we are in ‘collective grief’.
Grief is different to mourning, and although they might sound like just ‘words on a page’…it’s good to know.
Mourning is when you take the grief you feel on the inside and express it on the outside…
it’s ‘grief gone public’.
It’s helpful, it’s cathartic, it’s a release. 🌿
The trouble with ‘grief’ as opposed to mourning, is it’s such an internal thing.
No one can ‘truly’ understand the depth of pain and suffering you’re going through.
They can’t see it, exactly the way you do.
They can’t feel it exactly the way you do.
They can’t know it exactly the way you do.
But they can genuinely try.
That’s why It’s so important to stay ‘connected’ the people that you know, love, and trust.
I’ve said it before…
‘The people who ‘get it’.
Of course there’s so much more to it, but I think ‘one’ of the hardest parts to grieving, and there are many - is the fact that the birds are still chirping, the sun is still shining, the cars are still moving, people are still laughing and working and shopping, and living…
Life is going on all around you,
while you’re immersed in this immense feeling of god knows what, at any given time.
I know they say ‘that’s life’ and yes it does go on, but sometimes it just feels really unfair for a really long time, and doesn’t make sense at all.
Stay in some sort of routine where you can.
Even the tiniest amount, will give you a feeling of some certainty and a sense of control at a time where I’m sure you feel you have none.
Move your body, try to eat breakfast at a similar time each day.
Keep your body clock as in sync as much as realistically possible.
Get your thoughts out on paper and bin or burn 📖 🔥
When you feel the worst has happened, and life is turned on it’s head, give yourself permission get the support that you need so you can remember with ‘more love’ than pain.
Please reach out, as the months go on. You’ll know if and when that’s right for you.
When you know, you know.
Hopefully we can unravel some of the ‘messiness’ and help you feel through it all in the best way possible for you.
In the meantime, life goes on. ♥️
Mandy x
